MANTRAS FOR TODAY

 If you have a "bad day," only you have the power to change it.

When you realize how much control you have within you, you can stop believing that others can ever control you.

MANTRAS FOR TODAY

"Be the observer, not the reaction."

What does this mean? Being the observer means that you try hard to stay fully aware of YOUR feelings and actions throughout the day and that you do not allow others' actions to knock you off balance.  

You are in control of each moment.  

You have the power to ACT and to BE YOUR BEST, not to REACT.

Your internal strength can repel any negative energy from others throughout your day.

HOW HEALTHY IS YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP?

 

     Building and maintaining a healthy intimate relationship is an art form and is also hard work.  If this seems challenging to understand, it is even more challenging to do!  

     The “art form” aspect of an intimate relationship refers to the creativity necessary for the ongoing renewal of interest in each other through mutual leisure activities and devotion to physical intimacy.  The art of an intimate relationship involves respecting your partner’s privacy and freedom.  You must try not to take it personally when your partner is in a bad mood and must remember that you are only responsible for your actions.  

     Relationships are work.  When you neglect each other, by not devoting time for physical intimacy and shared leisure activities, it is just like neglecting your job duties.  If you neglect job duties, you risk losing your job.  If you don’t devote daily time toward listening to your partner, touching your partner,  communicating your wants and needs to your partner, and verbalizing appreciation to your partner, you risk losing your partner, just like being fired from a job. 

DO YOU KNOW SOMEONE WITH ANTISOCIAL PERSONALITY DISORDER?

 

     Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), sometimes called sociopathy, has a wide range of possible symptoms.  Have you been involved with a “sociopathic” person?  

     If so, your sense of self and even your reality may have gotten lost in the cycle of the ASPD person’s following traits: 

     (1) lack of empathy and respect for others, (2) continual manipulative and controlling behaviors, (3) frequent lying, (4) no guilt or remorse for aggressive behaviors or verbal abuse, (5) prone to substance abuse, infidelity, physical abuse to one’s romantic partner, and criminal activities, (6) disregard for work expectations, resulting in frequently losing jobs, (7) isolation of one’s romantic partner from friends and family, (8) often avoids responsibilities related to family, work, or school, and (9) poor impulse and anger control.

REACHING OUT

 Keeping your true feelings and thoughts inside can be very unhealthy.

 Reach out by: journaling, talking to a supportive person, and getting educated about mental health. 

 Text 786-468-0675 anytime for more guidance.

WHAT IS DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA DISORDER

 

     Developmental Trauma Disorder (DTD) has gained much research interest as a separate disorder from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), with the primary differentiation of DTD resulting from long-term emotional neglect, emotional abuse, family violence, and/or community-based violence.  If you were exposed to multiple, sustained, and untreated adverse or traumatic events, you may meet the criteria for this recently-proposed diagnosis.  Adults with DID have often been misdiagnosed with ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, or Borderline Personality Disorder.  The diagnosis of DTD has been specifically applied to individuals who endured years of emotional distress and who may exhibit the following symptoms: self-destructive behaviors, extreme distrust within all relationships, a pattern of emotionally abusive adult romantic relationships, verbal aggression, physical aggression, anxiety, depression, attention focus difficulties, and a very unstable sense of self.  The diagnosis of DTD helps mental health clinicians to treat adults who have endured childhood trauma and who experience more deeply engrained disruptions in their personality development which has not typically been addressed with the more common PTSD diagnosis. 

Mantras for the Day

 Do not fear change or uncertainty.  Your true higher self will rise to these occasions.

You already have all of the inner wisdom you will need in life.  You just need to tap into it.

UNDERSTANDING SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER

 

     Social Anxiety Disorder typically begins during childhood or adolescence and, without treatment, can continue indefinitely.  Those who have experienced long-term stress, trauma, emotional abuse, an excessively controlling parent, or bullying have an increased risk of developing Social Anxiety Disorder.  Specific situations can include eating in front of another person, speaking in front of a crowd, or talking to a stranger.  Broader situations can include speaking to anyone other than a family member and leaving one’s house.  In more severe cases, this disorder can cause a constant state of distress, often leading to isolation and withdrawal from all social opportunities.  Those with Social Anxiety Disorder often know that their fearful thoughts are unreasonable or unwarranted but remain trapped in a cycle of social avoidance.  

     If you have experienced at least 4 of the following symptoms on a frequent basis, you could have Social Anxiety Disorder.  These symptoms include: (1) difficulty talking to others, (2) self-consciousness in front of others, (3) frequent feelings of embarrassment, (4) intense fear of rejection or judgment by others, (5) worrying for days or weeks before a public event, (6) experiencing extreme anxiety or panic about social situations, (7) avoidance of public places, (8) difficulty making and keeping friends, (9) blushing, sweating, experiencing nausea, or trembling around others, and (10) using alcohol or other substances to calm oneself during social situations.

MANTRAS FOR THE DAY

 Appreciate your actions today.  

Any small task is an expression of your individual effort to contribute to your life's path.

If you experience a negative thought, breathe it in and then exhale it out.  Do this 3 times.

TOOLS FOR FINDING AND BEING YOUR TRUE SELF

 

     The Holistic-Dynamic approach assists you in clarifying goals in various aspects of your life and in building up your internal motivation to fulfill different needs aimed at personal well-being and the pursuit of your true self.  Holistic refers to understanding yourself as a combination of many aspects: thoughts, feelings, actions, and experiences with others.  Dynamic refers to your capacity for ongoing change and growth.  According to this approach, your motivation can only be understood by deeply exploring several key aspects of your life history and current functioning patterns.  These key aspects are your past experiences, your family relationships, your peer relationships, your romantic relationships, you career goals and current satisfaction with your work environment, your primary values, your mood states, your coping skills, your positive and negative behavioral patterns, and your predominant thoughts which guide your behaviors.

     

MANTRAS FOR TODAY

 Please write these down and use them when needed!

I am in control of my every thought. 

My insecurities and fears were created in my past but must not control my new daily narrative in my life's story.

Every moment of my life is an opportunity for growth.